My Side of Typical

My Side of Typical

Thursday, April 24, 2014

The Kindness of a Stranger

To the Lady on "M" Street:

I drove by your street again today. And just like every other time I drive by there, I thought about you. It's been almost 3 years since that day. A day that stays with me. 

We were on the way to the hospital for yet another abdominal x-ray when it happened. The Boy got a bloody nose. At all of 5 years old, with numerous special needs and very little verbal skills; bloody noses freak him out. Completely. Freak. Him. Out.

I had to pull over, and chance would have it that I stopped in front of your house. We got out of the car, The Boy screaming bloody murder for all the world to hear. He's running up and down the street. I'm trying to grab him, hold him. He's hitting and kicking trying to get away. He's splitting blood everywhere. I'm covered in it, he's covered in it, its getting all over the sidewalk. I have no idea what it looked like to a passer by, but I'm sure it was a sight to make anyone pause.

I didn't even notice when you came out of your house. I have no idea how long you watched us. I was a little preoccupied.  I didn't notice you until you gently touched my shoulder. You quietly asked if there was anything you could do to help. Was there someone you could call for me. Nearly in tears myself and using all my energy to try and calm my child, I could only shake my head. And I thought you left.

But you returned just a few minutes later with a couple of damp towels. You quietly handed them to me and stepped back. The Boy had finally stopped kicking and hitting.  He was sitting on my lap, still crying, still spitting blood; but he let me place a damp towel on his face. A while later when the bleeding had stopped, you were back with 2 glasses of cold water. And still, you said nothing, asked nothing. You simply did what you could to help, quietly, unassuming.

I have no idea what you thought. I sometimes wonder. Here is this kid who looks like he's 7 or 8 years old in a complete meltdown panic, fighting the women he's with, blood going everywhere. I'm surprised you didn't call the police. But I'm thankful you didn't.

We spoke very few words. When The Boy was calm enough I put him back in the car. I turned and looked at you embarrassed, exhausted, holding bloody towels. You smiled and said keep them, you may need them on your way home. And you slowly turned with the empty glasses in your hands and returned to your house. I think I mumbled thank you before I turned to get in my car. 

Later at home I washed your towels with the intent of returning them to you. But I couldn't get the bloody, grimy stains out even with repeated washings and bleach. So I gave up. I never went back to your house. I never truly thanked you for your kindness. That part sits heavy on my heart. You have no idea how much your kindness meant to me. You never asked any questions, you never passed any judgment, you simply tried to help. And that spoke volumes to me. The world could learn a few lessons from you, me included.

And please know this, every time I drive by your street I whisper thank you.